What if growth didn’t rely only on therapy or talking?
I know it sounds crazy, but I tried talk therapy for 7 years.
I am now a therapist, and I finally understood why it didn’t work the way I hoped.
When you’ve lived through chronic stress or trauma, the problem isn’t that you can’t “cope.”
Our nervous systems develop patterns that focus on protection, which may influence how we react.
What if growth wasn’t something you just talked about…but something you could explore in a fun, interactive way through tools that support wellness and self-awareness?
The Game of Your Life is a first-of-its-kind interactive wellness experience where you play as yourself & explore the different “worlds” of your life: work, family, parenting, friendships, spirituality and beyond.
As you play, you’ll:
✔ Understand your nervous system and how stress may show up in each world
✔ Uncover what (or who) drives your stress patterns and emotional triggers
✔ Support deeper connection both with yourself and the people who matter most
Grounded in psychology, neuroscience, and somatic practices, this isn’t about coping or positive thinking. It’s about playing your way through real-life experiences, learning how stress shows up in each area of your life, and discovering how to respond with awareness, balance, and authenticity.
Stress & Your Nervous System
Your nervous system uses stress responses to keep you safe in overwhelming situations, but they often run on autopilot. Over time, these patterns may quietly shape your emotions, relationships, and choices without you even realizing it. If you have ever wondered any of the following, you may be stuck in a nervous system pattern:
Fight: Feeling reactive, defensive, or misunderstood in stressful moments.
Flight: Feeling pulled toward staying busy, overthinking, or having trouble unwinding.
Freeze: Feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or unsure what to do next.
Fawn: Feeling overly accommodating, conflict-avoidant, or stretched too thin.
You can check out which stress patterns show up most for you by taking the quiz below & get a free guide to supporting you in noticing how stress may influence how you think, feel, and connect. (Don’t worry, we don’t gatekeep over credit cards over here either)
Start With Play: Where Your Story Becomes the Game
When stress hits, fight, flight, freeze or fawn take the lead & keep us stuck . Every reaction you want to shift starts with Play - a quiz for a theme that brings stress. Each quiz opens a 10-step journey that guides you through the LEARN™ Method: Learn → Engage → Align → Regulate → Navigate. Here are a few themes we will explore:
Stress Foundations– Discover where your energy goes, what restores it, and how stress influences your ability to connect, rest, and feel fulfilled.
As you move through Capacity, you’ll also begin previewing & voting on future experiences that expand the world of the game:
Communication – explore how you exchange, express, and get heard.
Boundaries – notice when they feel clear, crossed, or avoided.
Grief – surface the losses and transitions still shaping your present.
Conflict & Repair – track how you enter conflict and what supports repair.
Attachment – discover the patterns driving closeness, distance, or protection.
How It Works in Practice
The LEARN Loop is what makes Zaiyari different from any self-help tool. Each step connects awareness with action — transforming what you know into how you live.
Learn → How Stress Shapes Your Theme
Every theme begins with your stress response inside that context. In this step, you’ll explore how fight, flight, freeze, or fawn reactions shape five core paths:
Perceptions → the way you interpret situations.
Reactions → the impulses that take over.
Emotions → the feelings that surface—or shut down.
Connections → how you show up with others.
Principles/Spirit → the values that get distorted or go quiet.
Engage → Test Your Patterns in Real Life
Understanding your stress responses is the first step…but real change happens when you practice noticing them in action.
Theme-specific challenges guide you to notice how stress reactions play out across your interactions and connections. These are small, practical actions that help you observe your chosen theme in real time.
Through play, you begin supporting new habits in how you respond to life, relationships, and situations, one pattern at a time.
Align → Trace the Roots & Test Alignment
Here, you reflect on the history of your response…where it came from, who or what shaped it, and how it protected you in the past. Then you explore whether those patterns are still serving you, or if they’re out of alignment with the kind of connection and life you want now.
Regulate → Build Intentional Responses Over Time
Targeted practices help you shift the stress responses tied to the theme you’re working on. These aren’t about temporary calm…they actively exploring new ways of reacting to move from automatic reactions into intentional responses.
Navigate → Align Your Connections
This is where you evaluate how people and contexts impact the theme you’ve been working on. You’ll see the ripple effects in your connections, decide what actions to take based on compatibility insights, and begin practicing how to work with others in these areas.
Learning Expansions: The LEARN Method in Action
You’ll have access to every new growth path we create…and you get to help decide which ones come next. Each path walks you through LEARN™, helping you uncover why you get stuck, and what it takes to shift.
Somatic Workshops
As a Beta Tester, you’ll have access to our workshops. Join live events where we dive deeper into themes, practice tools in real time, and even participate as a guest or volunteer if you choose.
Live Access → take part in interactive sessions as they happen.
Workshop Library → if you miss one, the recordings are always available.
Guest & Volunteer Spotlights → step in to share, ask, or practice during sessions.
Future App Expansions
Right now, Zaiyari is powered by creative tools stitched together while we’re in early-stage funding. But our goal is full integration—a custom-built Zaiyari app that feels like a living, breathing world. Features we want to build include:
World & Connection Mapping: Chart your patterns and relationships visually
Personalized Regulation Tools: Real-time nervous system insights
Digital Growth Log: Track your evolution automatically
If we raise enough support to bring this app to life, you’ll receive free lifetime access as a Beta Tester. No subscription, ever.
Begin the Game of Your Life
This isn’t just another self-help tool…it’s informed by psychology, neuroscience, and somatic principles. By blending education, psychology, and somatic science with play, The Game of Your Life helps you reconnect, rediscover, and engage with your story.
Whether you’re seeking personal growth or stronger relationships, Zaiyari provides the tools, structure, and community to help you thrive.
Are you ready to play the game of your life?
