What if Healing Didn’t Involve Therapy or Talking?
I know it sounds crazy, but I tried talk therapy for 7 years.
I am now a therapist, and I realize what went wrong.
When you’ve lived through chronic stress or trauma, the problem isn’t that you can’t “cope.”
It’s your nervous system that is WIRED to protect you, hijacks your reactions, & leaves you feeling frustrated that nothing is changing no matter how hard you try to ‘think better’.
What if healing wasn’t something you just talked about… but something you could actually experience in a fun, interactive way using tools designed for your nervous system, not just your thoughts or emotions?
The Game of Your Life is a first-of-its-kind interactive wellness experience where you play as yourself & explore the different “worlds” of your life: work, family, parenting, friendships, and beyond.
As you play, you’ll:
✔ Understand your nervous system and how it reacts in each world
✔ Uncover what (or who) drives your stress patterns and emotional triggers
✔ Rebuild connection both with yourself and the people who matter most
Grounded in psychology, neuroscience, and somatic practices, this isn’t about coping or positive thinking. It’s about playing your way through real-life experiences, learning how stress shows up in each area of your life, and discovering how to respond with awareness, balance, and authenticity.
Stress & Your Nervous System
Your nervous system uses stress responses to keep you safe in overwhelming situations, but they often run on autopilot. Over time, these patterns may quietly shape your emotions, relationships, and choices without you even realizing it. If you have ever wondered any of the following, you may be stuck in a nervous system pattern:
Fight: You’re Reactive, Become Defensive, & Get Misunderstood
Flight: Why You Overthink, Stay Busy & Can’t Rest Even When You’re Exhausted
Freeze: Why You Shut-Down, Can’t Make Decisions, Go Numb or Feel Stuck
Fawn: Why You People-Please, Burn-Out, Avoid Conflict, & Lose Yourself
You can check out which stress responses are hijacking your nervous system by taking the quiz below & get a free guide to help you identify how it changes the way you think, feel, handle conflict, and connect with others. (Don’t worry, we don’t gatekeep over credit cards over here either)
Start With Play: Where Your Story Becomes the Game
When stress hits, fight, flight, freeze or fawn take the lead & keep us stuck . Every reaction you want to shift starts with Play…the first step in The Game of Your Life.
Each theme begins with a short quiz that helps you see how stress and authenticity show up in your life across people, worlds, and situations.
Your quiz results unlock a 10-step LEARN Loop, a guided journey that walks you through:
→ Learn – Identify how your nervous system has adapted to stress and protection.
→ Engage – Observe how these patterns show up in real time.
→ Align – Reflect on what feels authentic and balanced.
→ Regulate – Practice somatic grounding tools to restore safety.
→ Navigate – See who or what activates your system & choose what to do about it with compatibility insights.
Our method helps you see patterns clearly, test awareness in real time, and build new responses through guided play. With practices you can apply to yourself and the people in your life.
Play → Explore Stress Themes
Right now, as a Beta Tester, you’ll start with the foundational theme:
Capacity – Discover where your energy goes, what restores it, and how stress influences your ability to connect, rest, and feel fulfilled.
As you move through Capacity, you’ll also begin previewing & voting on future experiences that expand the world of the game:
Communication – explore how you exchange, express, and get heard.
Boundaries – notice when they feel clear, crossed, or avoided.
Grief – surface the losses and transitions still shaping your present.
Conflict & Repair – track how you enter conflict and what supports repair.
Attachment – discover the patterns driving closeness, distance, or protection.
How It Works in Practice
The LEARN Loop is what makes Zaiyari different from any self-help tool. Each step connects awareness with action — transforming what you know into how you live.
You’ll understand the history that shapes each theme and reaction to make invisible stress patterns visible.
You’ll practice regulation and grounding tools to help your body re-establish balance after activation.
You’ll finish each loop by mapping insights across your relationships, routines, and environments - and choosing what to do about it with customized compatibility insights.
Through play, you begin rewriting how your nervous system responds to life, relationships, and situations, one pattern at a time.
Learning Expansions: The LEARN Method in Action
You’ll always have access to every new growth path we create…and you get to help decide which ones come next. Each path walks you through Learn → Engage → Align → Regulate → Navigate, helping you uncover why you get stuck, and what it takes to shift.
Upcoming paths include:
The Path of Life → Why does “living well” still feel out of reach? Find what keeps you stuck and what truly makes life feel fulfilling.
The Path of Communication → Ever wonder why you feel misunderstood, no matter how you explain yourself? This path reveals the hidden patterns shaping how you connect.
The Path of Boundaries → Why don’t boundaries seem to “stick”? Explore the common mistakes that make limits crumble and how to set them in ways that hold.
The Path of Repair → Why doesn’t “sorry” feel like enough? Discover why repair often doesn’t land — and what it really takes to rebuild trust.
The Path of Grief → Grief isn’t just death or loss. It’s every transition, every shift. Learn what grief really is (it’s not what you think) and how it shows up in your worlds.
The Path to Healthy Relationships → Why do some connections feel safe, while others drain you? Learn what makes relationships strong, balanced, and real.
Identifying Unhealthy Relationships → Red flags aren’t always obvious. Spot the subtle cycles and imbalances that pull you away from authenticity.
Somatic Workshops
As a Beta Tester, you’ll have access to our workshops. Join live events where we dive deeper into themes, practice tools in real time, and even participate as a guest or volunteer if you choose.
Live Access → take part in interactive sessions as they happen.
Workshop Library → if you miss one, the recordings are always available.
Guest & Volunteer Spotlights → step in to share, ask, or practice during sessions.
Future App Expansions
Right now, Zaiyari is powered by creative tools stitched together while we’re in early-stage funding. But our goal is full integration—a custom-built Zaiyari app that feels like a living, breathing world. Features we want to build include:
World & Connection Mapping: Chart your patterns and relationships visually
Personalized Regulation Tools: Real-time nervous system insights
Digital Growth Log: Track your evolution automatically
If we raise enough support to bring this app to life, you’ll receive free lifetime access as a Beta Tester. No subscription, ever.
Begin the Game of Your Life
This isn’t just another self-help tool…it’s a psychology-driven game, backed by neuroscience and somatic practices that work. By blending education, psychology, and somatic science with play, The Game of Your Life helps you reconnect, rewire, and reclaim your story.
Whether you’re seeking personal growth or stronger relationships, Zaiyari provides the tools, structure, and community to help you thrive.
Are you ready to play the game of your life?
